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You’ve probably had moments where you handled stress calmly and other moments where the same type of stress completely overwhelmed you.

That fluctuation isn’t a character flaw. It’s nervous system capacity.

The “window of tolerance” is a term used to describe the range of stress your nervous system can handle while still feeling relatively regulated, present, and able to think clearly.

When you’re inside your window, you respond instead of react, choosing actions and behaviours that are supportive. 

When you’re outside it, your system shifts into survival mode (fight, flight, freeze, fawn). This can lead to automatic responses like unhealthy coping, taking actions we regret, or simply leaving us drained. 

Here’s what being outside “the window of tolerance” can look like:
• 🔥 Hyperarousal: anxiety, irritability, racing thoughts, urgency
• 🧊 Hypoarousal: shutdown, numbness, disconnection, fatigue
• 💬 Reactivity: snapping, withdrawing, spiraling, speaking or acting without thinking
• 🧠 Narrowed thinking: black-and-white thoughts or difficulty focusing
• 🌀 Feeling “not like yourself,” or choosing harmful coping strategies

The good news? Your window isn’t fixed. Capacity can grow over time.

Ways to gently expand your window:
• 🫁 Practice regulation daily: slow breathing, grounding, mindfulness, or gentle movement
• 🧱 Build pauses into stressful moments to give you time to recover and think vs. react
• 🛌 Prioritize sleep and physical basics (like hydration, movement, nourishing food)  they directly affect capacity
• 🤝 Seek co-regulation: build awareness together, safe relationships widen your tolerance
• 🔁 Notice early cues before you’re fully outside your window. For example, if anger regularly throws you outside your window, practice taking 3 breaths when you feel anger arises to help increase tolerance (goal isn’t to erase anger but to not ‘snap’ with it)

Expanding your window doesn’t mean eliminating stress. Stress can be positive and help us grow. It means increasing your ability to move through it without losing yourself.

Regulation is a skill. And like any skill, it strengthens with repetition.

✅ Action step: Reflect, what regularly sends you outside your window of tolerance and how? Choose one small regulating action to use next time this situation arises.

^{Love, Lola Graham}

Alcohol can act as a social lubricant, a way to bond with others, but it can also be addictive and cause long-term health issues. A recent large long-term study followed more than 88,000 adults for 20 years and found that how much alcohol you drink over your lifetime matters for colorectal cancer risk.

The researchers found that compared with people who averaged less than one drink per week, heavy lifetime drinkers (14 or more drinks per week) had a 25% higher risk of colorectal cancer, and nearly double the risk of rectal cancer. The longer heavy drinking continued across adulthood, the higher the risk climbed.

Also, former drinkers did not show an increased colorectal cancer risk compared to light drinkers, suggesting that stopping may help reduce risk over time.

FYI: If you do drink and don’t plan on stopping, then eating a healthy, fibre-rich diet is even more important to support your colon health.

✅ Action Step: If you drink, take an honest look at your weekly intake and, considering the long-term health effects, examine if you should reduce your intake.

^{By: Joshua Graham
Source: PMID 41582658}

^{A reflective journaling prompt to explore learning, self-awareness, and becoming.}

What’s a perspective that brings you more peace than pressure? How can you lean into it more often?

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With love and care,

Lola & Joshua | The Living Well Team

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