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Have you ever replayed a conversation in your head, reread a short message for subtext, panicked at a delayed reply, or felt your stomach drop with a subtle shift in tone? It might be rejection sensitivity.

Rejection sensitivity is the tendency to quickly perceive, and strongly react to, possible rejection (whether it’s actually happening or just a potential). It often develops from past experiences where belonging felt uncertain. 

Your brain learns to scan for signs of exclusion to protect you. The challenge? It can misfire. 

When rejection sensitivity is activated, neutral events can feel personal and permanent. Your nervous system shifts into threat mode before you’ve gathered full information. You can jump to conclusions, feel the need to search for ways to make everything okay, and sometimes sacrifice your own well-being to protect belonging.

Learning the signs and ways to steady yourself can help you rebuild psychological safety and let you move forward in ways that are meaningful to you. 

Common signs of rejection sensitivity:
• 📱 Overanalyzing texts or social interactions
• 😟 Assuming distance means dislike
• 🔁 Replaying conversations repeatedly
• 🧠 Jumping to worst-case interpretations
• 🚪 Withdrawing to avoid possible rejection

Ways to steady yourself when it activates:
• 🫁 Slow your breathing before interpreting
• 🔎 Ask: “What evidence do I actually have?”
• 🧭 Consider at least one neutral explanation
• 🤝 Check in directly when appropriate
• 💙 Remind yourself: discomfort doesn’t equal rejection
• ⭐ Remind yourself: you can and will get through this, no matter what’s happening 

Rejection sensitivity isn’t weakness. It’s a protective pattern. With awareness, you can pause before reacting and choose a steadier response.

✅ Action step: The next time you feel rejected, pause and name one alternative explanation before responding.

^{Love, Lola Graham}

Fun fact: the 10K step target didn’t start as a medical guideline. It actually originated in Japan in the 1960s as part of a pedometer marketing campaign. The number was catchy but not necessarily scientific.

What does the research say? Large prospective studies show that health benefits begin well below 10,000 steps.

Significant reductions in mortality and cardiovascular risk are often seen in the 7,000 to 8,000 step range, especially in middle-aged and older adults. Beyond that, benefits tend to plateau rather than skyrocket.

What really matters is consistency with exercise and movement rather than chasing some perfect number. That said, if you enjoy getting your 10K steps a day and it makes you feel good and helps you hit your activity goals, then keep doing you!

If you are below 7K steps a day, then it can be a good idea to try to increase your activity to try to get around there more consistently.

✅Action Step: If you’re below 7,000 steps daily, aim to add 1,000 this week. Small increases count!

^{By: Joshua Graham
Source: PMID 40713949}

^{A reflective journaling prompt to explore learning, self-awareness, and becoming.}

If you trusted yourself 10% more this week, what might you do differently?

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Lola & Joshua | The Living Well Team

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