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In Today’s Edition:

🥰Well-Being & Self-Care: Personalization: Escaping Thought Traps for Better Mental Health
💖Longevity & Wellness: Fitness Friday - 3 Exercises to Counteract Sitting
✨Daily Affirmation & Daily Prompt

Life will give you challenges; that is part of being alive and a part of this world.
You can handle those challenges and…
The capacity to grow from them, too.
You’ve got this!

Our brains naturally try to make sense of situations, but sometimes that turns into personalization: assuming things are about us or caused by us when they may not be.

Personalization can create unnecessary guilt, anxiety, shame, and emotional weight. It can lead us to over-responsibility, over-analysis, and carrying things that were never fully ours to hold.

While self-reflection can be healthy, personalization takes it too far by making you the center of situations that often involve many factors outside your control.

Common ways personalization shows up:
• 😟 Assuming someone’s mood or tone is because of you
• 🪞 Blaming yourself for situations you didn’t fully cause
• 📉 Taking neutral feedback as a reflection of your worth
• 🔄 Overanalyzing interactions for signs you “did something wrong”
• 🎒 Carrying emotional responsibility for other people’s reactions

Ways to gently loosen personalization:
• 🥠 Ask: What evidence suggests this is actually about me?
• 🌍 Remember that other people have internal worlds, stressors, and experiences too
• ⚖️ Consider all the factors involved, not just yourself
• 💬 Seek clarification instead of assuming blame
• 💙 Practice separating responsibility from compassion

Not everything is yours to carry. You can care deeply without assuming everything is your fault.

✅ Action step: Notice one situation today where you’re taking on responsibility. Ask yourself: “What belongs to me here, and what doesn’t?”

^{Love, Lola Graham}

Most of us spend a lot of our day sitting, and over time, this has consequences for our bodies. Prolonged sitting can make your glutes weak, it can tighten your hip flexors and hamstrings, and pull your shoulders forward into a rounded position.

These three exercises can help to counteract sitting; add them to your weekly routine:

Glute bridge or hip thrust: Your glutes are your butt muscles, and they are really important for posture, mobility and leg strength. Sitting all day can lead to glute weakness, which can lead to lower back tightness and tighter hamstrings as they work to compensate. The glute bridge helps wake up your glutes and strengthens them. Lie on your back, feet flat on the floor, and drive your hips up to the sky by squeezing your glutes hard at the top. Imagine there is a walnut between your butt cheeks and you’re trying to crack it. Once bodyweight is easy, try loading the movement with a barbell or a dumbbell.

Romanian deadlift: The hamstrings and lower back can both tighten and weaken from prolonged sitting, and the Romanian deadlift addresses both at once. With soft knees, hinge at the hips (think about pushing your butt backward while keeping your core braced), lower the weight down your legs until you feel a deep stretch in your hamstrings, then drive back up by squeezing your glutes. This helps strengthen your hamstrings and glutes through a full range of motion.

Face pull or band pull-apart: Hours at a desk pull your shoulders forward and weaken the muscles between your shoulder blades. Face pulls and band pull-aparts directly target the rear deltoids and mid-traps, the muscles responsible for pulling your shoulders back into a healthy position. When doing these, think about trying to squeeze your shoulder blades together as you pull back. Even a few sets a week can make a beneficial difference over time.

✅ Action Step: Pick one of these three and add it to whatever you are already doing this week, even two or three sets is enough to start building the habit.

^{By: Joshua Graham}

^{A gentle invitation to integrate lived experience with kindness, perspective, and care.}

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Lola & Joshua | The Living Well Team

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